It is a common notion that surround yourself with happy people, make sure you have a good life and should always be surrounded by good vibes in order to develop yourself into a happier or mentally peaceful person. But what if you read a book which claims these notions wrong? A book which outlines that every person is f*cked up and you shouldn’t have to always feel cheery and pleasant? A book which shows how we are basically following a so-called happy life in the form of hope which doesn’t even make sense? Interesting right?
ABOUT THE BOOK
Though many people often confuse it with as a sequel to The subtle art of not giving a f*ck but it has neither been confirmed nor denied whether it is or is not. The book as compared to the previous one mentions things in a broader concept. It is totally based on the philosophical side of life and how hope is an important aspect of our life. A great part of the book focuses on how we think that religion is something which is a faith based thing which tends to give meaning to our lives in the form of hope and how basically every religion operates on the same fundamental beliefs or principles. And the best thing is that the writing style is so impressive that we don’t even realize we are reading something with a heavy topic, that is mainly because the author has used his humor in writing too.
If you’re looking for a book which tells you of ways to live a happier life then don’t even think of picking up this book. Because this book is about how hope is the thing which directs our lives in both positive and negative ways and how always wanting a lot of positive experiences is itself a negative experience. Though this book won’t suggest ways to lead a happy life but it surely does explain that sadness is not the opposite of happiness, but hopelessness, feeling devastated and not wanting to do anything to change your current situation is. Not only that, it lays great emphasis on how our priorities shape our schedules and if we simply put it, the book explains how our mind has been manipulated to believe certain things without even understanding them.
This book has a lot of powerful and important lessons. Some of them are-
- Hope – something which always makes us believe that something out there is going to happen in our favor. We obviously don’t know the future so basically we are living in uncertainty. There are even negative effects of hope discussed in the book.
- Self-control – if you were hoping to hear that yes we can control ourselves then sorry but this book proves otherwise. Emotions aren’t something which we can control. Though we can influence them to a great extent, self-control is simply referred to as an illusion..
- World is f*cked – yes you read it right. No one is as happy as they appear on social media sites nor are they as happy as they claim to be. Everyone is going through their own problems and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
- Freedom itself demands discomfort.
- You must love someone without expecting anything in return; otherwise it’s not truly love.
- They forgot that the world doesn’t run on information…. The world runs on feelings.
- Hopelessness is the root of anxiety, mental illness, and depression. It is the source of all misery and the cause of all addiction.
- Self-control is an illusion. It’s an illusion that occurs when both brains are aligned and pursuing the same course of action.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Mark Manson, was initially a blogger who used to post mainly about topics related to self-help. It was after blogging for years that he finally combined all these blogs, edited them and put them in his books. He is also very active on social media sites and those who have subscribed to his newsletter (mails) would know that he constantly tries to guide people and help them in any way he can. On top of that he has recently started live sessions related to mental health topics and general philosophical aspects of emotions and all.
This is indeed a book which opens up your mind and makes you think about your thought process which you didn’t even know worked that way. It won’t console you like other self help books usually do but it surely will make you think about the truths which were hidden behind your brain and were long forgotten. Apart from that, hope and self-control are the topics which we usually see as positive things but this book shows their negative sides too.